Life With A Baby - Potential sleep training issues?

Monday, July 22, 2013 9:37 PM

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Christina

Hi,

I know this might be a redundant message but I am desperate and need some encouragement/advice.

I have a 10 week old daughter who has been colicky and has only on a handful of times slept on her own and never throughout the night. She still wakes up to feed twice a night which is fine but I've not been able to put her down in the crib/bassinet or even car seat for the rest of the night after I feed her. As soon as we put her down somewhere she wakes up even if she is in a deep sleep. It's been so tough as a mother, but with her interacting and smiling more, it's been more bearable.

When she reaches 4 months we plan to sleep train her b/c we're pretty desperately in need of good sleep and we plan to use the CIO method. I just want to know that there is hope out there and to know there have been others like this out me. Can anyone offer any advice or similar stories? Will there be potential sleep training issues b/c of her need to always/mostly sleep with someone?

-Christina

Saturday, July 27, 2013 11:46 PM

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Jennie

Hi Cristina, I'm sorry you haven't heard from anyone yet, I'm actually not on here often but happen to stumble upon your post today and couldn't reply earlier.

You aren't alone, I don't think I know any moms that haven't had to deal with very little sleep and exhaustion. I'm a mom of 2, a 4 year old and 16 month old and my second doesn't sleep as well as my first so I was thrown for a loop when the same things that worked with her didn't with him. I spent 5 hours his first night trying to make him sleep the way I wanted him too - swaddle and down in cradle by my bed - he wasn't having it. He's always slept better with me/on me and honestly, feeling his breathe on my neck and cuddling with him just felt right. Eventually, once he was in a deep sleep (and hour or so - but I'd nurse him infront of the TV and he'd fall alseep) I could move him to the craddle but this wasn't until he was 2 months or so. His first month, I had him in a sling and with me alot.

Being out of the womb is a HUGE adjustment for our babies and they rely on us to reassure them and make them feel secure, by holding them and putting them to sleep and picking them up when they cry.

There's been alot of recent studies done on the CIO method and its not something we've ever done in my family so I wanted to make sure I took the time to provide you with some information before you decide to proceed with the method.

Here's a couple of articles I hope you'll take a look at;

http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNeedTou.html

http://www.ahaparenting.com/ages-stages/newborns/case-against-ferber-sleep

The second one - AHA Parenting is a GREAT site with tons of useful information I wished someone had shared with me when I was a first time mom.

Best of luck to you and please feel free to reach out to me anytime.

Jennie

Tuesday, July 30, 2013 11:01 PM

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Jackie

Hey there, I'm sorry about your baby's sleep problems. I have a 10 month old myself and to this day still wakes up for about 2 feedings a night. I also did the sleep training and slept quite a bit of money but it didn't fix the problem. I know it's very discouraging but you just need to keep trying little things to make u sleep a little more. I actually had my daughter sleep in her bouncer for the first 4 and a half months until she learned to roll over... And it worked wonders. I also got an application in my ipad with white noise and it puts her into a deeper sleep that eventually when I moved her to the crib it was a easier transition because the white noise is similar to the sounds she heard when in your womb. I hope you find something that works for you soon.

Thursday, August 01, 2013 12:46 PM

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Olga

Hi there, I just responded to a similar discussion re sleeping. Here is the link to a sleep consultant, Alanna http://www.goodnightsleepsite.com. I think she's the best thing that ever happened to our family. My almost 7 months old is sleeping through the night and has 2-3 naps a day. My son couldn't sleep during the day, I couldn't do anything at all. I selected a two week package and now he sleeps well and on schedule. If you only have an issue with night sleeping then 1 week package will be enough because night sleep is much easier to train then day sleep. I hope this helps and good luck:).

Sunday, August 04, 2013 10:15 AM

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Jennie

Hello Again, I know that as moms we all want to do what is right for our babies, despite what we read and learn sometimes we need to follow our instincts especially when it comes to our children. When they are crying in those rooms by themselves, they are doing so because they believe that we will protect them always. Why would we ever want to break that trust in them? THey need us and we need to respond to them.

There are alot of other options out there on how to help baby sleep like "the no cry sleep solution" - a book easily found everywhere.

We are the only mammals that don't sleep with our young, somewhere along the line something changed in that respect and I truly feel the damage has had a significant impact on our world.

Good luck to you and your babies, I wish you all the very best.

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