4 month cries and screams before going for nap

  • Tuesday, November 09, 2010 8:07 AM
    Message # 459424

    My daughter has just recently started to really resist going for a nap. I have always rocked her to sleep and then I put her down once she's asleep. She's almost 4 months and starting a couple of weeks ago she cries and screams before finally falling asleep in my arms. She gets tired after about 1.5 hour of wakefulness. I look for her signs (rubbing eyes, slowing down) and then I rock her in my arms and try to get her to sleep. This used to work but now she starts screaming even when in my arms. I can tell that she's tired because she starts to yawn inbetween her screams. I try to catch her before she shows signs of being tired or at least right away but even her signs come quickly and then it seems as though she's past the point of being tired. I don't know what to do because this now happens at every nap (she's still taking about 4 or 5). She still only naps for 30 min. When will she take longer and fewer naps in the day? Anyone have any advice? I've read all the books too.

     

    Thanks

     

      

  • Thursday, November 11, 2010 8:14 PM
    Reply # 461360 on 459424

    I need to start by saying I am absolutely no expert.  My only is 6 1/2 month old.  He too has often cried before falling asleep (naps and  bedtime).  I have tried a few things which I will share:

    * putting him down even before showing the signs of fatigue (going by the clock more)

    * trying different methods of getting him to sleep (car, stroller, bouncing on exercise ball, different carriers ie. ring sling, blue celery, ergo).

    * introduced a lovely (lil peanut which was a gift bought at Chapters).  He tends to hold onto it and chew on the ribbon on it's head.

    * tried music but that just made me crazy so now I sing a couple of lullabies I learned for the occasion

    I know lots of books say to be consistent but that just makes me crazy when it doesn't work. I am certain I spend more time trying to get him to sleep then he spends sleeping...and I am not a fan of just letting him cry it out.

    He cries out just before he falls asleep but often won't cry at all...at least, that is what is happening with week with 3 teeth cutting and shots earlier in the week.

    You aren't alone if that is any consolation :)

  • Thursday, November 18, 2010 6:11 PM
    Reply # 465723 on 459424
    Julia wrote:

    My daughter has just recently started to really resist going for a nap. I have always rocked her to sleep and then I put her down once she's asleep. She's almost 4 months and starting a couple of weeks ago she cries and screams before finally falling asleep in my arms. She gets tired after about 1.5 hour of wakefulness. I look for her signs (rubbing eyes, slowing down) and then I rock her in my arms and try to get her to sleep. This used to work but now she starts screaming even when in my arms. I can tell that she's tired because she starts to yawn inbetween her screams. I try to catch her before she shows signs of being tired or at least right away but even her signs come quickly and then it seems as though she's past the point of being tired. I don't know what to do because this now happens at every nap (she's still taking about 4 or 5). She still only naps for 30 min. When will she take longer and fewer naps in the day? Anyone have any advice? I've read all the books too.

     

    Thanks

     

      


    Good to know I'm not alone. Same thing with my son, I used to be able to sing him a lullaby or simply rock him. These days at 4 months OMG, he kicks, screams, thrusts himself practically out of my arms all the while rubbing his eyes and yawning in between.

    I have some luck with the soother at times, I have also tried topping him up with a lil formula or some water. It's always hit and miss, I have tried just putting him down in his crib/bassinet etc. and just walking away to calm myself down. He sometimes calms down and sometimes continues crying. I will then pick him up again and simply rub one eyebrow while rocking and eventually sleep will take over....its a daunting task everyday but certainly a learning experience to say the least.

    As for the length of naps, same here 30 mins if I'm lucky I get an hour. Usually in that time I have mastered the art of speeding through a shower, eating, cleaning, washing bottles, boiling water etc. Everything in 3-5 mins or less...haha

    And he still wakes up at night at least twice to eat. I just go with the flow as best I can....when he wakes up we play, read or go for a walk or if I'm too zonked I turn on Treehouse for background noise.....sad but hey, some days I'm bone tired!!!

  • Thursday, November 18, 2010 6:12 PM
    Reply # 465725 on 459424
    P.S. My LO is teething also so I think some of the fussiness and fighting could be as a result of that!!!
  • Thursday, November 18, 2010 8:01 PM
    Reply # 465805 on 459424
    Oh dear...mine is only 2.5 months old and has started doing exactly what you are describing.  All of my old tricks which seemed to work in a few minutes are useless to soothe her.  Meanwhile, she has learned this new high pitched scream which kicks in almost immediately.  Anyone been through this and able to say how old your child was when it ended???  The other thing with my girl is that she is waking up early from these naps and then will cry until she gets fed - meaning that she is actually feeding more often and less predictably than for the first two months of her life :/
  • Sunday, November 21, 2010 2:14 PM
    Reply # 467243 on 459424

    White noise always seemed to work for me and my LO when he was younger....maybe a hairdryer running, or the vacuum?

    good luck!

  • Wednesday, December 01, 2010 10:19 AM
    Reply # 472400 on 459424
    The white noise is a good idea. It worked for me, and kinda still does for my 21 month old (when she goes to sleep, I use it to drown out the house noises so we don't wake her!)

    We use an air purifier, so it's doing double-duty. We picked up the Arm & Hammer one at Factory Direct (about $20 now, though we got it on sale for $10)

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