Do you have two minutes in the day for your hubby?

Can you find two minutes in the day if it means you can keep your marriage on track?

That is not a lot of time right! You can find that time and it is so easy and especially if it is split in two it is even more doable. One minute dedicated in the morning and one minute in the evening.

Something hubby and I do on a daily bases is – we HUG each other for one whole minute in the morning and one whole minute after work.  We literally stop everything and hug each other a Big Bear Hug kind of hug.  Sometimes, words are exchanged and sometimes it is a quite hug (no talking). Just depends on the day. We hug and stay connected no matter what for a whole minute even with three kids running around, making noise or asking us questions.  That minute is for us to connect with each other at the start of the day and at the end of our work day. In the morning, it gets us started for a good day ahead and look forward to the hug in the evening.  During the evening hug, it helps us to let go of the days events and focus on us and the kids.

The funny thing is that sometimes when we hug the kids get in on the action too. They hug our legs while we are hugging each other which than becomes a big family group hug.  We have three kids so they form a circle around us. 

One thing important, that I would like to mention is that we hug on good days or bad days. So even if we are fighting or one person is upset with the other we still hug.  Almost always as soon as we hug whatever the reason we were fighting about becomes totally irrelevant.

This one thing that only takes two minutes of our time each day helps us stay connected and helps us remember how much we really love each other and want to be with each other.

Not only will this help you save your marriage, stay connected and be in love but take a look at the list of 11 benefits of hugging below.

1. Increases Bonding

Hugging can cause a release of oxytocin from the brain, causing us to bond with our partner. The release of this hormone causes a rise in feelings of commitment and intimacy as we share feelings for each other through hugging (1) Try hugging with your partner to feel your bond strengthen!

2. Relaxes The Body

Hugging causes our muscles to relax, releasing tension in the body. (2) Hug someone to wash away the cares of the day!

3. Relieves Pain

Hugging releases endorphins, which relieve pain by blocking pain pathways and soothe aches by increasing circulation to soft tissues. This removes pain-stimulating peptides like bradykinins. (1,2) When you are in pain, reach out for a hug!

4. Increases Empathy & Understanding

A passionate hug allows for the exchange of feelings across the bioenergetics field generated by the heart, causing us to empathize with the other person. This builds trust between people in a way that words simply cannot. (1) Hug someone when you want to open your heart to them!

5. Relieves Depression & Neurodegenerative Disorders 

Hugging can increase the production of dopamine in your brain, and this can be seen in PET scans of the brain. Dopamine levels are low in people with conditions like Parkinsonism and mood disorders like Depression. (2,3) So if you see someone depressed, give him a hug, and bring a little joy to their life.

6. Elevates Mood

Hugging can increase the production of serotonin from your brain, which improves your mood and can boost your self-esteem. A person experiences depression and loneliness when their serotonin levels are low. Hugging causes the brain to release serotonin and endorphin to blood vessels to create pleasure and negate sadness. Hugging also results in improved performance at work and at school. (1,3) Hug your partner if they are feeling blue!

7. Balances Nervous System

Hugging balances the nervous system. The skin contains a network of tiny-egg shaped pressure sensors called the pacnician corpuscles which are in contact with the brain through the Vagus nerve. They can sense touch. The galvanic response measured from someone who receives a hug shows a marked change in skin conductance. The effect of moisture and electricity over the skin during hugging shows a balanced state of nervous system parasympathetic which is achieved by psychophysiological coherence created by passionate hugging. (2,3) Keep hugging and balance your nervous system!

8. Alleviates Stress

Hugging alleviates stress by reducing the levels of circulating cortisol (the stress hormones) in the blood. This causes the mind to calm down. This helps in decreasing cortisol-induced hyperglycemia and diabetes mellitus. Studies show that well-hugged babies are less stressed than less-hugged adults. The research at Emory University discovered an amazing link between touch and relieving stress. (1,2) When your partner comes home after work, just give them a warm hug!

9. Improves Heart Health, Decreases Heart Rate

Hugging can decrease heart rate. In a study conducted by the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, participants who did not have any contact with their partners developed a quickened heart rate of 10 beats per minute compared to 5 beats per minute among those who got to hug their partners during the experiment. Decreasing heart rates will help in decreasing blood pressure and cardiac illness. (2)

10. Boosts Immune System

Dr. Shelden Cohen conducted a study of over 400 healthy adults who were interviewed about their perceived social support. They participated in night phone interviews for two weeks. They were asked about the frequency that they engaged in personal conflict and received hugs that day. The researchers exposed the participants to the common cold virus and monitored to assess symptoms and signs of infection. They found that the people who perceived themselves as having good social support and received frequent hugs had less or no number of symptoms and signs of infection. The people who went through interpersonal conflict and the people who received less or no hugs, however, exhibited different symptoms and signs of infection. Hugging can decrease the stress hormone which inhibits the immune system and increase the hormones and peptides that regulate the functioning of immune cells. (1,2) Give your children hugs and keep them healthy and immune!

11. Reduce Worry of Mortality

A study published in the journal Psychological Science revealed that hugging and touching reduce worry of mortality. The study also discovered that even hugging an inanimate object like a teddy bear was enough to soothe individual’s existential fears. Moreover, simply imagining hugging a person you love the most can cause your brain to release serotonin, dopamine, and endorphin, triggering feelings of happiness and joy. This will also negate the worries of mortality by decreasing the levels of stress hormone, by altering the perception of the brain, and by evoking positive emotions. (2) Don’t worry, hug and live long!

So keep hugging it feels so good.

Resource:

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2015/12/03/the-chemistry-of-hugging-11-benefits-of-hugging/