Life is all about intersections. Each of us wears a few hats per day, and sometimes per hour! I think of it as a stack. Each time we put on a hat, the others don’t go anywhere. The pile gets taller and taller as caps are added, switched and even replaced, but they continue to affect each other. For instance, if you’re both an employee and a woman, your gender may influence your experience as an employee, such as learning less for the same work. That’s what it’s like being a BIPOC person and parent. The BIPOC part permeates each of those hats. Some of it comes from the inside. Things like culture, language and music influence how we see and move in the world. Much comes from the outside; things like stereotypes, bias and racism. Dealing with those things doesn’t mean you don’t deal with what every other parent is dealing with; those hats remain.
Instead, it means tackling those things concurrently. It gets tiring sometimes. It’s easier when others get it, because that’s when a slight shift makes significant differences happen. We are fundamentally the same. We all want to be safe, healthy and loved; that doesn’t change just because you don’t look like someone, or they don’t look like you. It’s about not letting anything less than what’s right stand–even when you’re not personally affected. This month, we’re sharing resources to help everyone understand themselves and others better because seeing your reflection in another is the only path to harmony.
"Right now, among the Asian-Canadian community, many are really living in fear." — Avvy Go.
TVO's The Agenda talk to Avvy Go and Dr. Gina Wong about anti-Asian racism - and what you can do to help.
"Not only does racism impact you as a parent, it can also impact how you interact with your children." A comprehensive guide on taking care of yourself from the American Phycological Association:
Racial Stress and Self-care: Parent Tip Tool
"Children of colour need to grow up experiencing the world as a place where they feel included, not invisible." Raising Kids of Colour
Many times, dealing with discrimination, racism, and violence transcends generations. Read about how that's happening right now in the Asian community from The New York Times.In a Role Reversal, Asian-Americans Aim to Protect Their Parents From Hate
I thought a loving home would be enough for my biracial child
🎥 I Am Not Your Asian Stereotype | Canwen Xu
🎥 No, You Cannot Touch My Hair! | Mena Fombo
Knowing is half the battle. Get to know the terms from this simple definitions list from Holland Bloorview:
Racism can be defined as: race prejudice that is supported by social and institutional power; a system of advantage based on race; a system of oppression based on race.
Anti-Racism refers to actions and practices that challenge and counter racism, inequalities, prejudices, and discrimination based on race.
Anti-oppression challenges the systems and systemic biases that devalue and marginalize differences.
Diversity & Inclusion have to do with the acknowledgment, valuing, and celebration of difference.
From Today's Parent: "This may be uncomfortable to hear, but racism is ingrained in all of us. It’s no longer enough to teach kids not to “see colour”—in fact, it’s harmful. Here's how to take action." This is what it means to raise an anti-racist kid.